“Spiritual Parenting in the First Five Years”

41sprIJdN6L._SX348_BO1,204,203,200_When I was pregnant I read so many baby & pregnancy books. As time passed I read a variety of parenting technique books. Everything from Ferberizing (which i hated), to Love Languages for Children, (which I loved.) Honestly I never thought about developing my child’s spirituality in the early years. I read how to get them to sleep, play nice, share, eat blah blah blah. In retrospect, Spiritual Parenting seems pretty important

I just read an eBook titled “Spiritual Parenting in the First Five Years” by Callie Grant

This is a quick easy read with some great tips. You can purchase Callie Grant’s e-book here on Amazon!

It is a worthwhile purchase at $5.00

Here is a brief synopsis. I hope you mommas enjoy it.

Expecting parents have nine months to plan and attend classes before the baby arrives. Traditionally, most of that time is devoted to preparing for the child’s physical needs. But what about the baby’s spiritual needs? Callie Grant, founder of the Christian publishing company Graham Blanchard, lays out five Bible-based principles for the care and feeding of a new child’s inner life. The first few years of a child’s life are developmentally the most important. Parents can maximize this vital window to teach their children about who God is, and how they are made to be in a relationship of peace, joy and love with him.



August Is The Sunday Of Summer

Summer-Sunday-e1407858845935The end of summer elicits two very different responses from mommas. In one camp there is the  group that thinks, “Thank goodness.  I cannot wait for school to start.” The second group is more of the clinging by the your fingertips to the last moments as they are dragged out from under you.

I have always belonged to the latter group. If you have read any of my previous posts you will know that milestones are not my favorite part of parenting. I may rejoice and beam with pride as each cherub reaches a milestone but I silently grieve as they pass them. (Ok, not all that silently.)

Each year the end of summer is just a slap upside the head to me. We have spent summer in a blissful, relatively nag free state.  My big rule over summer is that everyone must brush their teeth twice a day. Otherwise it is pretty much Lord of the Flies over here.

I know there are tons of families who thrive on the routine of school. To me, summer is sooooooo much better than the day to day of school life. Let’s face it school sets us up for failure. How can a day start out peaceful when everyone is waking up while it is still dark outside? No one in our family is really a morning person. Most of the time 3 of the 4 are crabby. It rotates which of the 3, but it is usually at least three. Then there is the homework grind, the after school stuff, nagging everyone to get to bed on time. It is this exhausting ritual that last nine months. Plus it is cold and dark out early and I am not at all tan, I mean really come on…..

Summer is a serenade of beautiful long days at the beach or better yet vacation. Bedtime is flexible, showers are flexible, vegetables at every meal are flexible, heck even waking up has some flexibility.The end of summer also means my cherubs are one year older, one grade higher and one step closer to being all grown up.

As the last moments of summer come to a gentle close I will miss a ton of things.

I will miss my almost grown giant children waking up starving at 11 a.m, hair all amuck, still looking like they are just really tall 8 year olds.

I will miss meeting one of my cherubs for lunch during my lunch hour at work.

I will miss the constant barrage of friends that come and go. The week long sleepovers.  I love coming home to eight cherubs sprawled all over the furniture watching a movie.

I won’t will miss following up on homework or running to the craft store to get stuff to do a project. Heck, I have not stepped into a craft store since June.

I will won’t miss feeling like everyone has to be in bed by 10 p.m. or the next day will be a disaster

But the thing I will really miss is that this is my second to last summer with two of my babies. They are seniors this year. It is a big year. They have already taken senior pictures. The first football game of their last year is tomorrow. In fact almost everything is the last of something.

For someone who never wants her babies to fly the coup, and yes, I totally understand how dysfunctional and unhealthy that is. Senior year is just a great big emotional roller coaster. Full of peacock proud moments and teary eyes. Next summer is our last summer together as a whole family before they begin the journey off  whatever path life takes them on.

Sure I know they will come back and visit but that is the key word. It is just a “visit.”  They won’t live here anymore. I totally get that, that is the goal. God only loaned us our cherubs. We are their stewards. Our job is to raise independent, God loving, gospel sharing adults. If we have done that then we have fulfilled our commitment and God’s purpose for letting us have these amazing humans for the past eighteen or so years.

So sayonara summer. Hello fall. Lots of exciting moments to experience this year. Forward progress mommas.

Psalm 127:3-5 Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord, the fruit of the womb a reward. Like arrows in the hand of a warrior are the children of one’s youth. Blessed is the man who fills his quiver with them! He shall not be put to shame when he speaks with his enemies in the gate.




A Convenient Solution to Costly Dr Appointments + a Giveaway

MavenLogoOhhhh mommas I am so excited about this nifty new app. I frequently am asked to review things on this blog and I usually do not consider doing so because I don’t want to inundate you with white noise. But this is so great. I love it. I only wish I had access to this when my babies were little. It would have saved me countless trips to the pediatrician’s office.

MAVEN is an app that basically allows you to make a virtual appointment with a certified doctor, specialist or nurse practitioner on your IPad or IPhone. The price range is between $18-$100 per appointment. (I don’t know about you but that kicks butt on my deductible) You pay up front so there are no add on fees and you will know what it is going to cost before you commit. It is geared towards women but they are able to meet almost all needs. They are able to give prescriptions, physical therapy exercise, prenatal care, breast feeding help etc.

How rad would it be to have a new baby and not have to haul yourself, the baby, the car seat, the diaper bag and a toddler to find out why someone has a fever or is ear tugging?

This is not designed to replace your GP but to supplement in a convenient cost effective way. They do not currently work with insurance companies.

I think you are going to love it. They are offering all readers of Just Your Average Momma a free visit to give it a try (worth $25 dollars which covers time with a nurse practitioner, physical therapist, or nutritionist) Just put in this code (valid for one visit only). JUSTYOURAVERAGEMOMMA on this link http://go.onelink.me/1845334105?pid=Blog&c=JustYourAverageMomma

I have attached the one sheeter from the company for your review. Give it a try and let me know what you think. This is one of those times when modern technology is a good thing.

Maven Primer

I Am Praying, But I Really Don’t Mean It.

vain_young_woman_072709_m-234x350Vanity is one of the more yucky parts of me. I am often concerned with how I look and how people see me. This is getting to be a slippery slope as I age.

I have entered what I call the age of invisibility. This is the age when you can walk through a crowd at a water park and no on pays a lick of attention to you. It is liberating in some ways (you don’t have to suck in all day and you  can wear your 3 year old one piece) but very difficult in others. I used to get a lot of self worth and affirmation from that kind of attention.

I know the whole thing about getting our self worth from God etc. That He is enough.  I wish so very much that could be enough for me? I know how narcissistic this all sounds and I am really not as self involved as it reads. But as I get older the lack of affirmation is much more noticeable. Thus making me grasp for things that will help.I don’t want to loose weight for health, it’s for vanity as is dying my hair, getting eyelash extensions (I really loved those) or buying new makeup.

The trouble with these things is  that we are not exactly rolling in dough. Anytime I do something fluffy like that it comes straight from some other part of the budget. There is no stroke Kris’s ego fund.

Mommas I am not saying you shouldn’t try and look your best, but there is a line that I cross sometimes. The line where I will sacrifice in one area to get some unnecessary fluff just because I am feeling low about myself. That is where the rub lies. If I really felt that God’s love was enough I would be far less wrapped up in me.

So I pray that God takes away this part of me. I pray that He painlessly zaps it out of me. I am hoping one day I will wake up and look in the mirror and just be content. Sadly I don’t think that is the way it works..To make matters worse at the same time  I kind of don’t want it to change. I still really like the compliments. I love getting a new outfit or hair style that causes my friends to say, “You look great.”  I get this temporary high.

So what happens when you pray but as you are praying you know you really don’t mean it? You want to mean it but you just don’t. You feel like you still need whatever the thorn in your side is?  Let’s face it God knows what is going on. No one is fooling Him.

I am tackling this by acknowledging the fact that I don’t mean it and I still need whatever it is to make me feel good. Then I ask God to at least take away the part that still wants it. My prayer goes like this;  “Dear Heavenly Father, you know how I am.  I don’t really want you to take it but I would love for you to change my thinking to more of you and less of me. Please make my heart more like yours. Let your ways be my ways. Please let me know you are enough in my heart. And even though I don’t mean it I really want to be obedient. But Lord it is going to take some extra help from you because I cannot do it on my own.”

I am one weak sister mommas. I am just hoping the good Lord appreciates my efforts. Whatever your struggling with,(vanity, unwillingness to forgive, anger, addiction etc.) the thing that you know you shouldn’t be doing but it just feels good. Ask God to intercede on your behalf. Even if you don’t mean it I fully believe God will change our hearts.

Philippians 4:13 I can do all things through him who gives me strength